Attachment Informed
Healing Intimacy Avoidance, Emotional Disconnection & Attachment
Many couples silently struggle with emotional disconnection, unmet intimacy needs, and painful patterns of avoidance inside their marriage. What often feels like rejection or lack of desire is frequently rooted in deeper unresolved attachment wounds, not personal failure or intentional withholding. While Dr. Doug Weiss identifies these patterns as Intimacy Anorexia, it’s important to understand that this is not an addiction — it’s a protective strategy shaped by early relational experiences and emotional survival patterns.
When viewed through a trauma-informed and attachment-based lens, we see that both partners are in pain — the one longing for connection and the one overwhelmed by the vulnerability intimacy requires. This is not about blame or fault. It is about healing. Every individual can learn how to earn secure attachment and build the emotional safety that allows intimacy to thrive. The good news is: intimacy avoidance is not a permanent identity. With the right support, practical tools, and a compassionate structured approach, couples can repair emotional distance, rebuild trust, and create the deep, safe connection they both desire.
Our Process Toward Healing: The first step is to schedule an intake appointment where we assess your unique situation and needs. From there, each spouse begins with individual sessions to stabilize their own nervous system, build emotional safety, and lay the foundation for secure attachment. Once both partners are on solid ground individually, we move into focused couples work through either marathon sessions or full marriage intensives. This deep, concentrated work allows us to address emotional attunement, co-regulation, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. After your intensive, we continue with structured monthly sessions to reinforce secure patterns and ensure you are not just surviving, but thriving in your marriage.
If you’re ready to break painful cycles, heal your marriage at the root, and experience lasting emotional connection, I invite you to schedule your intake appointment today.
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Healing Intimacy Avoidance, Emotional Disconnection & Attachment Wounds
Why So Many Couples Feel Stuck
Many couples silently struggle with emotional disconnection, unmet intimacy needs, and painful cycles of avoidance inside their marriage. What often feels like rejection, selfishness, or lack of desire is frequently rooted in much deeper attachment wounds, unresolved childhood experiences, or unprocessed relational trauma.
While Dr. Doug Weiss identifies these patterns as Intimacy Anorexia, it’s important to understand:
This is not an addiction. This is not about blame. This is about healing.
Intimacy avoidance and emotional withdrawal are protective survival strategies developed over time — not moral failings or personality flaws. Both partners experience pain: one feeling chronically rejected and alone, the other overwhelmed by vulnerability and unable to stay emotionally present. Without the right support, these patterns can leave even the most committed couples exhausted and hopeless.
A Trauma-Informed, Attachment-Based Approach
When viewed through the lens of Attachment Theory and trauma-informed care, we understand that everyone has the capacity to heal and earn secure attachment, regardless of past experiences. True healing begins when both partners feel safe enough to explore their wounds, learn new emotional skills, and practice healthy connection without fear or shame.
With the right guidance, practical tools, and compassionate support, couples can:
- Break painful cycles of emotional avoidance
- Build emotional safety and trust
- Learn secure attachment and co-regulation
- Strengthen intimacy on every level — emotional, physical, and spiritual
- Develop healthy conflict resolution and communication skills
- Reconnect in ways that feel safe, loving, and sustainable
The Process Toward Lasting Healing
Our healing model is intentional, structured, and rooted in decades of trauma-informed marriage recovery:
1️⃣ Intake Appointment:
We begin with a comprehensive intake to assess your relationship dynamics, attachment patterns, and specific needs.
2️⃣ Individual Stabilization Sessions:
Each partner begins individual sessions to stabilize their nervous system, process trauma history, and build their own secure foundation.
3️⃣ Marriage Intensive or Marathon Sessions:
Once both partners have stabilized individually, we move into concentrated couples work through marathon sessions or multi-day intensives to address emotional attunement, co-regulation, communication repair, and secure attachment bonding.
4️⃣ Ongoing Monthly Support:
Following your intensive, we continue with monthly coaching sessions to reinforce new patterns, provide accountability, and ensure your marriage continues to grow and thrive.
You Don’t Have to Stay Stuck
If you’ve felt hopeless, disconnected, or trapped in painful cycles, know that healing is possible. You don’t have to live in emotional distance. Secure attachment can be learned, intimacy can be rebuilt, and your marriage can become a safe, thriving partnership again.
Schedule your intake appointment today and begin the path toward true healing, safety, and connection.
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