Sexual Addiction Self Assessment

•  Do you keep secrets about your sexual behavior or fantasies from your spouse or partner?
• Do you feel as though you lead a double life?
• Have you had sex with people, or in places, you are ashamed of?
• Have you found yourself engaging in sexual behaviors that you once considered "crossing the line?"
• Do you need greater variety, increased frequency, or more extreme sexual activities to achieve the same level of excitement or relief?
• Do you, or have you ever, masturbated at work?
• Does your use of pornography occupy large amounts of time and/or jeopardize your significant relationships or employment?
• Do you feel ashamed of the amount of time you spend looking at online or printed pornography?
• Have your sexual preoccupations and/or behaviors led to the demise of your relationships time and time again?
• Do you frequently want to get away from a partner after having sex?
• Have you ever tried to stop certain behaviors only to find yourself engaging in them again and again?
• Do you masturbate as a means of coping with stress, adversity and/or life's challenges in general?
• Do you feel shame or guilt after a sexual encounter?
• Have your sexual practices caused you legal problems? Could your sexual practices cause you legal problems?
• Do you consider your sexual partners to be "objects" whose only purpose is to fulfill your sexual desires?
• Does your pursuit of sex or sexual fantasy conflict with your moral standards or religious beliefs?
• Do your sexual activities involve coercion or violence?
• Have you put yourself or others at risk for sexually transmitted diseases?
• Has your sexual behavior or pursuit of sexual relationships ever left you feeling hopeless, alienated from others, or depressed?
• Do you have guilt or shame around your masturbation "habits?"
• Do find yourself spending large amounts of time in pursuit or grooming potential sexual partners?
• Does your preoccupation with sexual fantasies cause problems in any area of your life - even when you do not act out your fantasies?

If you answered YES to one or more of these questions, we are here to help you further assess your potential sexual addiction.

• Do you keep secrets about your sexual behavior or fantasies from your spouse or partner?
• Do you feel as though you lead a double life?
• Are there particular outfits or clothes you put on when you this behavior is happening?
• Have you had sex with people, or in places, you are ashamed of?
• Have you found yourself engaging in sexual behaviors that you once considered "crossing the line?"
• Do you need greater variety, increased frequency, or more extreme sexual activities to achieve the same level of excitement or relief?
• Do you, or have you ever, masturbated at work?
• Does your use of pornography occupy large amounts of time and/or jeopardize your significant relationships or employment?
• Do you feel ashamed of the amount of time you spend looking at online or printed pornography?
• Have your sexual preoccupations and/or behaviors led to the demise of your relationships time and time again?
• Do you frequently want to get away from a partner after having sex?
• Have you ever tried to stop certain behaviors only to find yourself engaging in them again and again?
• Do you masturbate as a means of coping with stress, adversity and/or life's challenges in general?
• Do you feel shame or guilt after a sexual encounter?
• Have your sexual practices caused you legal problems? Could your sexual practices cause you legal problems?
• Do you consider your sexual partners to be "objects" whose only purpose is to fulfill your sexual desires?
• Does your pursuit of sex or sexual fantasy conflict with your moral standards or religious beliefs?
• Do your sexual activities involve coercion or violence?
• Have you put yourself or others at risk for sexually transmitted diseases?
• Has your sexual behavior or pursuit of sexual relationships ever left you feeling hopeless, alienated from others, or depressed?
• Do you have guilt or shame around your masturbation "habits?"
• Do find yourself spending large amounts of time in pursuit or grooming potential sexual partners?
• Does your preoccupation with sexual fantasies cause problems in any area of your life - even when you do not act out your fantasies?

If you answered YES to one or more of these questions, we are here to help you further assess your potential sexual addiction.

• Withholding love from your spouse the way you know to or how they have asked to be loved.
• Withholding praise or appreciation from your spouse, not sharing with your spouse about their positive qualities as a person and his or her positive impact on your life.
• Controlling by silence or anger as a way to push away, punish or control your spouse.
• Ongoing or ungrounded criticism toward your spouse.
• Withholding sex from your spouse, avoiding having sex, sabotaging sexual encounters or not connecting emotionally during sex.
• Being unwilling or unable to share feelings with your spouse.
• Staying so busy that you have little time for your spouse.
• When issues come up your first reflex or response is to blame your spouse.
• Controlling or shaming your spouse in regard to money spending.
• Withholding spiritual connectedness from your spouse.
• Do you feel more like a roommate than a spouse?

Five or more "yes" answers indicate the presence of Intimacy Anorexia® as defined by Dr. Douglas Weiss, PH.D.